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Curiosity Is Everything

John Medina points out in Brain Rules that curiosity is everything. Curious mind.  Cpen mind.  Responsive mind.  All three advance your divorce settlement conversations. Invariably there are points in divorce settlement discussions where your spouse makes a proposal that you just can’t swallow.  Your immediate negative reaction suggests that the proposal was never seriously considered.  It’s easy to shoot down [...]

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How Many Mediators Does It Take?

The 17th Annual Dispute Resolution Conference, an outstanding event sponsored by the Washington Law School Foundation ,the WSBA ADR Section, the King County Bar Association ADR Section, Resolution Washington and the Washington Mediation Association, was held last Friday and Saturday. Lela Love, an accomplished Professor of Law at Cardozo School of Law, Director, Kukin Program [...]

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Mediation Is Better Process for Divorce

Last Thursday I had the opportunity to hear Gloria Steinem, author and activist, famous for the Women’s Liberation Movement, speak at a fundraising luncheon for the YWCA.  She spoke in part about how empowerment starts with the least powerful.  She then gave her ideas about what the world would be like if the YWCA ran [...]

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Divorce Mediator’s Toolbox

Last week in an effort to keep up on the trends and developments in the dispute resolution profession I attended the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution 12th Annual Spring Conference held in San Francisco.   I could not be happier that I attended because it  gave me an opportunity to brush up on and [...]

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Divorce Tax Tip!

The timing of your divorce could cut your taxes. Your tax bill could be significantly less or more, depending on your filing status as of December 31st. Many people think filing status for filing their income tax return is prorated for the year; it is not. Your tax “filing status”, single or married, is determined [...]

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Divorce and the House

Divorce is usually difficult. Emotions run high and at the same time divorcing couples have the added problem of figuring out the property distribution. This is particularly challenging when the market is down. Divorce clients I have seen in the past year have lost 15-30% of their home value, leaving the equity slim to none…or [...]

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Don’t Get Lassoed!

You are the best alternative to a litigated solution. Traditional litigation can make you feel like you have been hung out to dry. The traditional litigation model, used by most divorcing couples, “fuels and feeds off of overwrought emotions”, states Philip Mulford in Contemplating Divorce? Consider Mediation. Why is this? Divorce is not just a [...]

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Co-Parenting

Our very own San Francisco Examiner published an article recently called “10 Commandments of Co-Parenting. You can read it, here. There is some great advice in this article, which is just as apt for parents who are together as well as for divorcing parents. The commandments are: 1. Resolve conflicts without putting kids in the [...]

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Run Toward Fear

People in the midst of divorce are often extremely overcome with fear caused by the overwhelming change in their life. Pressure from fear of the unknown, triggered by questions such as: “How will the divorce affect the children?” “How will I survive financially?” “What will people think?” “Where will I live?”, coupled by anger and [...]

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Who Decides Your Divorce…Umpire or You?

Clients often ask “Is mediation right for our divorce situation?” A better question might be “Is litigation right for our divorce situation?” Last week I attended a two day high school peer mediation training at CRU Institute . Nancy Kaplan, Institute Director, gave a quick test for whether a decision that is based on rules [...]

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